York, ME

Jack & Dorothy, York, ME — Married 1946

Jack:
Sometimes I think a good marriage needs to have a challenge to make it or break it.  I think that many of the arguments are casual bits of offended vanity; but the deeper love and ties of a marriage come at the deeper trials.

RF:
You talked about how you'd nearly split.  You'd had an actual physical fight.

Dorothy:
We had such a bad time that we went to a psychiatrist.  And it was really good.  He asked us heaps of questions and told us, first of all, that he was the sort of man that if he felt a couple were terrible together, and they shouldn’t be together, he’d never hesitate to say “go ahead and divorce.  Get this over with.”

But actually, he talked with us, and listened to our different feelings about different things, our likes and dislikes; he said, “well, I think it’s not only a good marriage, I think it’s one of the best I’ve ever known.”  He said, “your likes and dislikes are so much the same,” and we have the same tastes in practically everything.  Music, literature, and a point of view about politics and, you know, all that stuff.  And you know, it gave us a nice little feeling.  To have someone say that, that he thought that we had not only a good marriage, but one of the best he’d ever seen.

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