I spent the night in conflict and
resolved, in the morning, that I didn’t care what I had to do.
Or what we had to do together. That our relationship, and our
history together, was worth more than whatever this was that I didn’t
know anything about. And we could get through it.
I think that what we have done is that we have
taken hold with our hands and kept an issue that in so many other
cases has broken apart a marriage, and not allowed it to do that.
We found—with resilience and good humor, and understanding,
and empathy and compassion, and love—we have found a way to
keep that from happening in our relationship. Because we believed
in our relationship, we believed in each other, and we just didn’t
feel that we should be such slaves to convention and tradition.
That there were other ways to be authentically, and ethically, and
morally—there was some way through the forest that we could
do it and not have to throw the marriage away.