Brooklyn, NY

Leonard & Phyllis, Brooklyn, NY - married 1950

Phyllis:
I think one of the main things that keeps us from quarrelling is that we never -- or 90% never -- blame the other person for something that has happened.  I mean, if you make a mistake, so you made a mistake, that's all.

Leonard:
We made a mistake.

Phyllis:
It's "we made the mistake," that's right.  And that's really true.  I find that doesn't happen too often, in other marriages.

RF:
So you surrender your ego?

Phyllis:
Yes.  In each case.  That's exactly the words for it.

Leonard:
That's just the term.  That's right.

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