Phyllis: I think one of the main things that keeps us from quarrelling is that we never -- or 90% never -- blame the other person for something that has happened.  I mean, if you make a mistake, so you made a mistake, that's all. Leonard: We made a mistake. Phyllis: It's "we made the mistake," that's right.  And that's really true.  I find that doesn't happen too often, in other marriages. RF: So you surrender your ego? Phyllis: Yes.  In each case.  That's exactly the words for it. Leonard: That's just the term.  That's right.

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